fATE or Destiny

Is this really my destiny? People say that we use destiny as an excuse when failure jumps instead of victory. That we are destined to fail at first and then @ the right time we would reap success. But what if failure is the way destiny is telling you that " IT'S NOT THIS!" , "its something else, you just have to look beyond what you see or hope rather than welcoming the blows of fated failure. Does it even make sense? Destined to fail?